OTHERPLANE

Hi! I am 22 years old and live in Holland. I am gifted myself but I can't help myself with the problem I have. That's why I need your help.

My girlfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago and I feel that it is not over yet. But my feelings for her are very deep although the love has gone. She is 20 years old and feels that I've gone to far with saying what I feel for her and acting by those feelings. She also is saying that's it over for us permanently, but she does not act like that. I am being told not to let go of those deep feelings I have because it's going to be alright between us again. I have my doubts but I believe in the things because I have the privilege to see, hear and smell.

My question is: Is it going to work out between the both of us? If yes, could you tell me how and when? The answer to question number 1, I already know but I would like to have it confirmed to make sure that it is not somthing I would like to believe in (a relationship that's never going to be true again although I feel it will be).

Fri, 29 Jan 99, Otherplane's reply to reader:

Yes, you do have all the answers and only you can determine when the time will come to continue your relationship with this individual, if you choose to do so at this time. The strength of the commitment you have for her will influence the speed and potency with which you will work things out with her. Yes, things always have a way of working things out, yet it is up to you to speed things up or slow them down.

Remember, one should learn from his mistakes and allow them to serve as aids to one's motivation in order to allow a relationship to grow and become stronger. Best of luck...