OTHERPLANE

This is sort of strange for me because I've never written to anyone like you before. I am researching various paranormal events over the Internet and I happened upon your site and I noticed that you give feedback to readers who write you. Mine is kind of a long story so I'll abbreviate it.

Anyway, my grandmother died when I was about 4 years old. Ever since then, I have noticed odd occurrences throughout the years, such as feeling someone is watching over (protecting) me at various times, mostly when I really need it. I was engaged to a woman whom I loved very much and I had sort of a waking dream one morning but I distinctly remember "seeing" my grandmother. She communicated to me that my fiance would soon pass away which she did about 6 months later from cancer. After she passed away I had resolved myself to never be with anyone else. About a year later, I met someone that I felt an instant connection to. This is where it gets kind of weird. I still had the mindset that I was never going to be with anybody else but I kept getting this nagging feeling that her and I were "supposed" to be together. I have never felt like that before not even with my previous fiance. She felt the same way, almost like it was our destiny or something. We were together for about a year and a half when we broke up over a huge lack of communication problem. That was about 5 months ago. To make a long story short, I have this feeling that we screwed up by seperating. Almost like we weren't "supposed" to. Like we upset some sort of cosmic balance or something. No matter how hard I try I can't shake this feeling. I mean I know that I'm probably better off without her but something or someone keeps telling me that we made a mistake.

Every time I try to start a relationship with someone else since then has ended up not happening due to reasons beyond my control like me not getting their e-mail and then they get upset that I don't write them back and I can never explain that I never got their letters. That's just one example. I couldn't tell you how she feels because we've barely spoken a word since we broke up. I've noticed movements in the apartment recently usually coinciding with these feelings. You know, seeing something move out of the corner of your eye and then looking and nothing's there. Also, a collectors plate that she had given me just fell off the shelf by itself the other night. I don't know if I should take this seriously or if I'm going completely nuts and I should just forget about the whole thing.

Anyway, I was hoping you could give me some advice like you did those other readers on your site. The presence of my grandmother, like I said earlier, is not something I constantly feel but it usually comes in times of need for me. I hope to hear from you soon. I am at my wits' end with this.

Fri, 12 Feb 99, Otherplane's reply to reader:

We are not sure what advice you are exactly looking for. If it's the answer to how you should live your life, or what you should do next in life to make yourself happy, well sorry, you're out of luck. Only YOU can make that happen. It's nice that you have good memories of your grandmother to help you work through your tough times. Maybe it will help you do what you need to do first, get to know yourself. The real you. The INNER you. Find your good points. Not the ones you think you have, but the real ones. Once you have found yourself again, as you did as a young boy, you will then be able to rise above all those setbacks and move forward. The depression, self-doubt, and negative emotions are preventing you from liking who you see in the mirror. Stop making mountains out of molehills, and open that clenched jaw of tension with a smile. Remember, to err is human, but to forgive is human achievement. Start first by forgiving yourself.