OTHERPLANE

I am a 38 year old female. I have never been married but would like to try that institution and would like to have a child. I don't seem to be able to meet any eligible men. Can you help me?

Thu, 11 Feb 99, Otherplane's reply to reader:

Obviously, your hope is for happiness, but how do you go about it? Do you believe entering the institution of marriage will bring you this happiness? Happiness can mean so many things in life. But it is important to remember that happiness means keeping simplicity in life and living it spontaneously. It also means awareness and delight in "little" things. Stop and take a look on your past. Analyze what you've gone after in a relationship in your past, and revamp. Cultivate a more cheerful attitude toward others, be friendly to others, and avoid criticism of others. If possible, even give credit for the good intentions of another individual. It is amazing what a positive attitude can do to the inner you which then in turn can radiate the attention of another.